We all know a wedding is a momentous occasion. A day that should be photographed and captured on video to relive those memories for years to come. To ensure their memories last a lifetime, couples are hiring the best photographers & videographers to capture their wedding day.

The fee of an experienced and popular wedding photographer normally takes about 10 – 20% out of the full wedding budget, sometimes even more. Point being, the couple are spending a lot of money to have a professional photographer and videographer capture their day.

This brings me to the fact that there will always be a guest at a wedding, making the wedding photographers day a nightmare. We call these guests “uncle bob” and behold, most weddings have one. The cousin who bought an entry level dslr camera, “and really wants to start photographing weddings” so they are literally bouncing around you and the couple the entire day, or the uncle that has a semi pro camera but is always trying to “out do” the wedding photographer by getting up close and personal to the couple, or climbing on things to get the shot he wants.

This sometimes results in “That perfect shot” being ruined by a guy with a camera in the background, a arm in the way, a bum that moved in front of your lens or just in general the continued annoyance of someone constantly moving and crouching around you to also “get the shot”

If you are a wedding guest, making yourself guilty of this behavior…STOP! You might just be the reason some of the couple’s best moments are ruined.

There is a reason why the couple is spending a large chunk of their budget to hire a professional photographer. They wanted their wedding captured at a high level of competency and skill! Chances are the wedding photographer on the day has the skill, and the experience to deliver great wedding photos. There is no need for a guest to go up to  the wedding photographer, questioning his/her angles or equipment being used, getting into a competition with him/her about which angles are begin covered, or which shots are being taken etc*. {I still don’t know why this happens sometimes} It just seems so silly. You are a guest at the wedding, enjoy yourself, eat, drink and be merry and let the professionals do their job.

* Not one photographer I know would mind having a conversation with a guest about photography or equipment etc, but it is all about timing. Go up to him/her during dinner or when you see a gap when the reception is in full swing on the dance floor.Most will be happy to give advice or have a quick chat.


This brings me to one last point.

We live in a digital age, where information are shared instantly, quickly and with the help of social media we can share one image or information to all our followers with one click. This however has led to guests at weddings snapping away with their smart phones & tablets and instantly sharing the couple’s wedding photos over social media {sometimes even before they are officially married} How bizarre is this need for “sharing” that we can not give the couple a little bit of privacy in regards to their wedding day, just for a few hours {at least}.

I once encountered a bridesmaid that took snaps of the bride before she left for church and instantly uploaded it to social media, not realizing that the groom checked into his account and saw the bride even before she arrived at the church. Now my guess is, the bridesmaid did not think the groom would be on his phone checking into Facebook, but he did, and he saw, and was disappointed.Everyone else {people that was not even invited to his wedding, saw his bride before him}

This has led me to feel that there should be a “No phones” sign at weddings, to keep guests from over sharing too soon. Give the couple at least a few hours before you start sharing their photo’s online.


I have encountered my fair share of “uncle bob’s” and really sometimes have felt disappointed in a guest ruining that perfect shot, sometimes on purpose even, and I am sure many other photographers would have a story or two to tell about a “uncle bob”. So please, if you are a guest at a wedding, go enjoy yourself, and let the professionals do what they where hired to do.

Just to give you an idea as to what I am talking about, here is a few images of “uncle bob’s”.

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Guest with ipad at wedding


Uncle Bob at wedding

Guest ruining shots at wedding

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Uncle bob at wedding


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