“Caution Ahead” should be a flashing sign when you start choosing your bridesmaids. Why you ask? It should be easy right? You just pick your best friends or sister…relatively easy picking.

Well, in all sense of the word it should be that easy, however taking more time to really carefully picking your bridesmaids would be well worth it.

Stress levels on the day of the wedding is running high, and the bride normally relies on her bridesmaids to keep her calm, help her with anything necessary, from last minute errands, emergencies, assistance with getting dressed, and overall require them to be a second pair of hands during the day.

When choosing bridesmaids, choose people you know will carry your best interest at heart, will be at your back and call during the day, and will really take their tasks seriously.

What most brides only realize too late, is that choosing the wrong people to surround you with on the wedding day, can cause frustration.

A bride that constantly is looking to find her “missing in action” bridesmaids or having the odd bridesmaid that is either trying to take over the day or proceedings, or is trying to outshine the bride can easily turn into irritation.

Some women see being picked as a bridesmaid or maid of honor as a “status” symbol, since there is only a few spots for a chosen few, and normally it is the people closest to the couple getting married who gets selected. This can cause a few weird and jealous feelings between the girls as to who gets selected, who gets what duty and who is the maid of honor and might elevate on the day of the wedding.

This might sound like something you will see in a movie like “Bridesmaids” or even “Bride Wars” those movies it seem, does have a point…one that unfortunately seems to be more relevant than one would imagine when starting to plan your wedding.

What you should know when you are selected as a bridesmaid:

As a bridesmaid you should be at the brides side, helping and assisting. Not competing, trying to outshine the bride or cause more stress and drama.This is not your wedding day.

If you are chosen as a bridesmaid, you should take the supportive role in every sense of the word.
A bridesmaid should not be missing in action the moment the ceremony is over, forgetting that she has certain duties in regards to assisting the bride.

When you are asked to deliver a speech in honor of the bride, remember to leave out any embarrassing stories, snide remarks, or anything that can be taken in a negative context. Keep it light hearted, fun and short.